So yesterday, I had managed to put together a few lines for a new Smirk plus an intro and rough outline for a new book and then… I went to a Biz Divas event, with special guest star Lisa Nichols. Yes Lisa was back in town and was speaking at another of my sweetie-baby-cutie-pie-wifey-pooh’s events. The Biz Divas is Angela’s networking and education company for business women and entrepreneurs. So when faced with the option of writing about the finer points of how to best review a Hollywood movie or sharing some of the points Lisa talked about the previous evening, well, let’s just say… take it away Lisa!
See had I actually recorded any of her presentation that would have been a perfect place to put it. I did take some notes though, and I do concede that now would probably be a perfect time for those. Funny thing about perfection, it’s a little more subjective than one might think. One person’s perfection is another person’s pa… something. I was hoping for another p word, but I’m not exactly sure which one fits the way I want it do. Hmm… problem, poppycock, picture frame, ooh how about placency, well complacency. There’s even a p in it and I think it works. Actually, I think I’m looking for the opposite of that word, something like anxiety… only with a p in it. I think I’ve made my… a point.
So when arrived at the event I was a bit bothered. Not because of the event, but because of work. Ok not exactly work, but I received a phone call at work from a Crap-Magnon, which is a lot like a Cro-Magnon except that they look like humans and sound like humans when they speak, but have not evolved to the point that they know how to speak with and be human. They reek of foul, vile energy and after talking to them for about one to two minutes tops, your skin begins crawling and a trigger in your brain that goes off that repeats over and over again that this is not a good person and you need to get away from them as soon as possible.
Even an hour after the call had ended I was still bothered that I had experienced such an intense black hole of negative energy. You could say it was the energetic equivalent of accidentally stepping into a pile of Great Dane pooh. The smell follows you around for a while and it takes a little time to get all of it off. Plus, you’re going to need a water hose to do it.
The water hose arrived when I walked into the event. The room was an energetic white hole, which is the opposite of a black hole… I looked it up. When I walked into the event the room was full of friendly faces, old friends, new friends, friends that will someday be friends, but as of yet we’ve still not met. It was the radiating positive energy of people there. It was light, kind, warm, and accepting. Also, because the room was full of people like that the energy just kept growing, and expanding outward. Five minutes after walking into that room any residuals from the Crap-Magnon caller were all gone. It was a good day and it was only going to get better. So a thank you to everyone there for that, and thanks for the smiles, the hugs, and the love.
Lisa’s presentation was grand, and it was a little different than last time I saw her. This time the focus was on business and some tips, suggestions… make that steps for people to mull through and start with to assist them with their own business. I did like this concept a lot. One of the things that make us all the same is the fact that we are all so different. When you share information designed to help others it helps to have multiple choices that people can choose from, because we’re not all in the same place. One person’s “eureka” is another’s “that was so last year.” Out of the 6 steps she shared there were individuals knowing that Step 1 was just for them while others cradled Step 2 as their “Yes, YES” and so on for each step shared.
Here are the steps Lisa gave, although if you get the chance to see her present these 6 steps I highly recommend you do so. Mainly because she has a brilliant entertaining personal story to go along with each step, and the presentation is definitely going to make you feel all warm and fuzzy.
- Step 1: Begin with the end in mind. It’s good to think about the process, but it just as important to know what the end result looks like.
- Step 2: Give yourself a thousand second chances. It’s not that your idea or dream didn’t work. It just didn’t work that time. Give yourself a second change, and then another, and another, and another. You get the point.
- Step 3: Get someone who is better than you to play with you. Get a coach and/or mentor for your business (art, music, writing, whatever it is you do), to motivate and encourage you, and to remind you that they were once were you are now, and are now were you want to be.
- Step 4: Give yourself permission to have what it is you say you want. If you have no respect for millionaires and think they are all evil and bad people, how can you become one? The more successful you are the more you can share your message and help others. Begin wealthy does not make you a bad person, it only amplifies the person you are.
- Step 5: Bring your family on the journey, but don’t drag them. And don’t wait for them. It is your vision, and you have to keep it going. Either they will support you or they won’t. What you need to do is keep moving forward.
- Step 6: Move from operating like a flood light to operating like a laser. Don’t try to do everything at once. Start with one or two things and focus on those. Once you get those down and they begins running on its own (or the event you planned is over, or the song you wrote is recorded, or the book you wrote is finished), focus on your next vision, idea, product, etc.
And that’s it… six steps. Find the one that speaks to you and own it… or don’t, in the end it’s always going to be your choice and no one else.
Which one was my “ah ha!” step? I think it was a mixture of 1 and 6, but mostly 6, mainly when it comes to my writing. I have already started four novels and only one is roughly finished. I get to finish that first book. Proofread, edited, revised, and submitted to publishers. Then it will be time to start working on the next one. I get to be more laser focused on completely finishing my first novel instead focusing on my writing like a puppy with ADD in a bouncy ball factory. Don’t worry though, I’ll keep Smirking as long as people are willing to read and happy to laugh.
It was a good presentation and a good night. Of course when Lisa is in the room, it always is. I wish you all could have been there. But since you couldn’t I guess it’s a good thing I took notes. Yay me!
Any thoughts on today’s Smirk?
Google Images, key words: Lisa Nichols, 6 steps, rude people, hosing off shoes, and puppy with ball.
Thanks for the Smirk Rich! I wanted to go but it just didn’t work out. 🙁 I finished Lisa’s book a few weeks ago and I really enjoyed it but I could help thinking how much better it would be if she were reading the book to me on stage. She is a very entertaining, energetic, and powerful speaker! Thanks for sharing the 6 steps, they are SO true!!!
thanks for taking those notes! I didnt and “thought” i woudl remember them!
And I acutally forgot I had a J.O.B. while I was there…I was dissapointed to find I had to return from the glorious white hole back into the gloomy black hole the next day and miss the day 2 events!!
I am so honored to be a aprt of this amazing circle of which your WIFE created with her amazing vision. And I get to be friends with you too!
Real timely, Richard. Especially for me, as I try to get to grips with all the tasks on my to-do list today. I may just leave this browser tab open to your blog, and read it several times today.
Cool. I’m glad it helped.
Well my friend I did not come from an abyss of abscess such as you, but I did get sucked into that white hole of love and/or positive energy. It was tangible. Not to sound wussy, but I couldn’t do the exercise Lisa was doing with visualization with all eyes closed. Why? I kept getting caught tight in the emotion and the lump in my throat made me open my eyes. I cry at some movies, but at a BIZ DIVAS? ME? Dang she is good. I had the privilege of driving her around and there didn’t seem to be a phony bone in her. Good people that one she is.
All in all, my perception was right that this is a positive group of people, but the energy they all seemed to carry was beyond what I imagined.
Great post as always Sir Richard!
I agree completely Dwight, and very cool that you got the opportunity to drive her around. Angela called me that Tuesday night telling me in a bit of a school girl frenzy so excited that she was hanging out with Lisa in her hotel room eating Wendy’s and making sure she was taking her cold medicine because she was a touch under the weather.
It’s always a wonderful thing when your heroes actually turn out to be heroes when you meet them in real life.
Thanks Richard, after the last few days of a waking hell (breaking up with my girlfriend for what looks like the last time) and having no end of problems trying to sort out what the hell to do with everything I want to do in my life, you’ve seconded pretty much everything that my Mum said, not that I wasn’t listening, just not sure how to start.
Sorry to hear about your break up Matthew. Sounds like you are entering a rather transitional time. The key thing to remember is to pick just one thing off the list to start with. Don’t try to do them all at once, or it can easily become an extremely overwhelming and daunting task. I know it’s a little unnerving to be faced with endless possibilities, and to stand there stuck because you don’t want to make the wrong choice. It’s not about wrong or right right now, it’s about making the choice and taking a step.
It’s all a journey and it’s a brilliant one at that, even during those times when it’s scary as hell. One step at a time my friend. I know you can do it.